The first week of the break is the most difficult period for any woman. You constantly come across traces of the former. It turns in my head: “Why?”, “For what?”, And if you left the man, then: “Where did I get so much strength” and “Maybe I was wrong?” Exist 5 impossible that suit everyone parted: for those who have left, and those who arbitrarily deleted themselves from the camp of “couples”.
1. You can’t think about the past
Your memories will ultimately lead to only one thing - you are already without it, it is no longer there. Whether you think negatively or remember good moments, thoughts - this is a continuous stream and where it will lead you is unclear. Do not hurt yourself even more.
How to handle
You should never recall him. This is incredibly difficult, but try to exert yourself and repeat to yourself the cherished words that Scarlett O'Hara once taught us: "I will think about it tomorrow".
Make plans for the summer, immerse yourself in work, radically change the image and hairstyle. Think about anything, try to bury your head with any nonsense. If things are very bad and the former does not get out of my head, there is one way out. Suppose you do not understand a word in English - urgently sign up for courses for advanced polyglots. Practice at home, otherwise you will look like a complete fool in front of your group!
2. Night is the most dangerous time
You must admit that thoughts are very difficult to control, and at night the brain seems to live separately from the body, it controls you, and decides what you will think about and what you will not. In addition, the well-forgotten, old feeling of an empty bed can in no way act beneficially.
How to handle
These fears in the night are not so difficult to overcome, the most important thing is to reduce the time of an empty stay in bed without sleep.
- Invite your friends (or friends) to spend the night with you
- Use sleeping pills
- Get up earlier to cut down as soon as you put your head on the pillow
- Watch movies, read boring literature on the couch, go to bed only when you are already unbearably sleepy.
It is very important that you understand the importance of these “impossible” and do not give yourself slack. Why do you hurt yourself? Separation, and so the feeling is not pleasant.
3. Do not call or seek meetings
You (like him) need to relax and think things over. You came to this decision because you did not see yourself as a couple. You need time to understand everything and make your final decisions with a fresh mind.
How to handle
Unfortunately, for this “impossible” there is no other method than self-control. Read the terms below and think about it:
If he broke up with you, then now you will not return him. This is a specificity of men, they are not as emotional as we women, and you don’t have to wait for him to rush to you with open arms. If I wanted to, I called myself a long time ago.
If you broke up with a guy, then call is all the more not worth it. This decision was not easy for you. Think it all over, don't let emotions control you. If you hurry, then you may have to go through parting with this man more than once.
4. You can’t drink sadly
You can drink, but only so that later you will not be sad. Your evening should not end with drunken calls to your ex and mourning your “worthless life”. This relationship has hurt you so much. Most likely, the last months have not been the most pleasant in your life. Perhaps it was he, such a goat, that made you suffer. In any case, do not make yourself worse. When you see a poop, you do not cry and do not suffer if you part with it.
How to handle
- Drink only with trusted people. You probably have friends who will surely not let you get bored and upset. Call them if you want.
- Few people know their "sad dose", but if you relate to these lucky ones, then you are lucky. The main thing is not to overdo it.
- Alcoholics of the country revealed that vodka in 99% of cases has a depressing effect on the nervous system. After it, you are more easily depressed, you have even more sad thoughts. In no case do not drink vodka. It is very good if you know drinks that are guaranteed to cheer you up.
- Just don't drink.
5. You can’t get depressed
Some women naively believe that they will be able to cry now, to suffer heartily, and then it will be easier for them. Perhaps this is so, only no one can guarantee you that during this “woeful rampage” you will not do anything that you will regret later. In addition, it is very harmful to the nervous system. At least you feel sorry for yourself.
How to handle
Well, firstly, you must control yourself and remember the harm that you cause your body because of some man who has no place in your life. Chat with friends, call your friends, if necessary, go to a psychologist, just do not let yourself get sick. Your ex already doesn't give a damn about it, if he finds out, he will most likely think that you are kind of crazy. And you ... why do you have to torment yourself? Be stronger than circumstances.
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